Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr<\/i>.<\/p>\n
(Yeah, I know … I’m growling … but remember, as I’m growling … I’ve still got a sparkle in my eye and a bit of a smirk in my face ! \ud83d\ude42 )<\/p>\n
Labels … Labels … Labels.<\/p>\n
Transsexual. Transvestite. Transgender. Crossdresser. Drag Queen. Gay. Fag. Sissy. Homo. Hermaphrodite. Intersexed. She-Male. Autogynophile.<\/p>\n
And that’s probably not the entire list.<\/p>\n
Heck … I’m sure I’ve missed a few.<\/p>\n
But it doesn’t matter … ’cause that’s just a start.
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\nBecause not only does each and every one of those words have a different definition in general, but each word can have many definitions within itself … depending on the context … and depending on the person.<\/p>\n
Now what creates some of the problem for me is that each of the words for the most part is non-conventional enough that often a person can self-identify with one word and the average populace would be none the wiser in disputing such. Eventually I’d become an example in that person’s mind of whatever word I attach to myself.<\/p>\n
I mean … I could say I’m a football player … but anyone who knows me knows that is not true. But if I say I’m a transsexual, they have no idea what that means and there is a fairly good chance if I’m adament enough they’ll accept me as an example of that word. At least eventually. (At one point in my life, I could have used the example, I could say I’m a woman, but they’d know that’s not true<\/i> … but not anymore. Which is what causes some of the difficulty in all of this for people … gender is such a basic conditioned truism in the human nomenclature that challenging such is a challenge to a basic premise necessary in human functioning) … anyways …<\/p>\n
Since I can identify myself with whatever “label” I choose,<\/p>\n
And since I”m no one special …<\/p>\n
That means others can do the same,<\/p>\n
Which is what creates my …<\/p>\n
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr<\/i>.<\/p>\n
Because the “label” I finally came to accept, others unlike me also accept.<\/p>\n
So that when people think of me as my “label”, they also include others unlike me and conclude I must be like them.<\/p>\n
And I’m not.<\/p>\n
I identify with the word transsexual. Not a word I”m crazy about … I think it’s wrought with inapplicable linguistic roots leading to inaccurate conclusions by many guessing its meaning,<\/p>\n
But from the available definitions … I appear to be a transsexual.<\/p>\n
Now all of the words are not mutually exclusive … I suppose I’m also transgendered, because I perceive transsexual as a subset of transgendered. As is transvestite, crossdresser, drag queen, she-male and autogynophile. Labels I am not.<\/p>\n
And generally speaking I try to be as specific as possible in applying labels to myself. I mean, I could say … human, earthling, American … but none of those help one trying to understand my situation when I’m explaining it to them … and the purpose of labels in the first place is to provide an opportunity for comparison by example and similarity. For understanding. Communication.<\/p>\n
Transsexual is a subset of Transgendered to me as Quarterback is a subset of Football Player. Quarterback is the Transsexual of Football. (I’m sorry, I just thought that was incredibly funny to conclude. LOL)<\/p>\n
Now I don’t consider gay, fag, sissy or homo subsets of transgendered.<\/p>\n
And I’m not sure about hermaphrodite or intersexed. They may be subsets of transgendered, but I haven’t thought enough about it. I’ve contemplated whether or not hermaphrodite or intersexeds are mutually exclusive with transsexual, i.e. if one claims to be IS, does that mean they wouldn’t be a transsexual. Or could one be both IS and TS? I haven’t drawn a conclusion.<\/p>\n
Now I think it’s part of human nature to try to “label” oneself in the most socially acceptable label possible. Which means … if I perceive one label as being better to be tagged with from society’s perception … I’d try to self-identify with that label … and since I would … I think others do also.<\/p>\n
And though I personally dislike the label transsexual, some … unlike me in many ways and though I’m not quite sure transsexual according to my definition of the word … claim to be transsexual and become other examples of such in people’s mind.<\/p>\n
And unfortunately … inluding in the minds of people that I know.<\/p>\n
Twice in the past month … people in my life have met … though chance and circumstance … for the first time … others who claim to be transsexual.<\/p>\n
And they were completely unlike me.<\/p>\n
Apparently not wanting to blend … woodwork … like me. Not wanting to disappear into the world as just another woman … nothing special … nothing different (well, not quite true … all women are special :), but you know what I mean \ud83d\ude42 ).<\/p>\n
No … these transsexuals …<\/p>\n
Wanted people to know they were transsexuals.<\/p>\n
That they had a sex change and it was something to talk about.<\/p>\n
Apparently both woman claimed to be post-op transsexuals. And neither attempted to pass. At least very well.<\/p>\n
And my friends were left with the impression … that upon seeing, meeting a real life transsexual … that transsexuals can never really pass, blend into society as woman.<\/p>\n
They … we … will always look like men … act like men … present as men … regardless of claimed surgeries … feelings … or beliefs.<\/p>\n
Now this isn’t a post about passing or not passing. Sleath, woodwork or out. Everyone should be comfortable being who they are and be allowed to choose their course.<\/p>\n
All I’m saying is that … as a result of meeting a different subset of transsexual …<\/p>\n
I get the talk. Which I’m fine with. Because it’s nice that I have people in my life trying to understand. But when I start saying that “that’s not the type of transsexual I am<\/i>” … I can tell … I’m losing them.<\/p>\n
They don’t believe there are subsets of transsexuals … or the possibility that one might inaccurately self-identify as a transsexual. No … I see the anguish, pitty, disgust … and disbelief. Not disbelief that I’m a transsexual. No. But disbelief that I’m not like them. That I’m not like the transsexuals they met.<\/p>\n
Thus the …<\/p>\n
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr<\/i>.<\/p>\n
I hate it when others define me … because I define myself !! \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. (Yeah, I know … I’m growling … but remember, as I’m growling … I’ve still got a sparkle in my eye and a bit of a smirk in my face ! \ud83d\ude42 ) Labels … Labels … Labels. Transsexual. Transvestite. Transgender. Crossdresser. Drag Queen. Gay. Fag. Sissy. Homo. Hermaphrodite. Intersexed. She-Male. Autogynophile. And that’s…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[139],"tags":[],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":139,"label":"General"}]},"featured_image_src_large":false,"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy","author_link":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":8,"category_info":[{"term_id":139,"name":"General","slug":"general","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":143,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":0,"count":775,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":139,"category_count":775,"category_description":"","cat_name":"General","category_nicename":"general","category_parent":0}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/504"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=504"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/504\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=504"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=504"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=504"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}