So … there are the Stages of Grief (Denial, Anger\/Resentment, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance) … oft discussed here and on many other pages … which have been terribly important for me to keep in mind during my whole Disclosure experience …<\/p>\n
But what I’m finding interesting is how progression from one stage to another seems to occur pertaining to my transition … specifically … the journey to Acceptance.<\/p>\n
Right now … I have several people in my life who are tenuously nearing that leap to the Acceptance stage … and being the incredibly cool people that they are, as I tend to only hang out with such – hehe \ud83d\ude1b … when they test drive the Acceptance stage … they are incredibly cool to me … and some of the sweetest, most supportive things in the world are said to me …<\/p>\n
“Just wish there was something I could do to help you.<\/i>”<\/p>\n
“Instead of thinking of what you are leaving behind think about what you have to gain.<\/i>”<\/p>\n
“[Y]ou’ve been very successful pretending all these years. Just imagine how great you will be being yourself.<\/i>”<\/p>\n
“Here’s the one rule, you aren’t allowed to find a man before me ! \ud83d\ude42<\/i>”<\/p>\n
“It’ll be nice, really nice.<\/i>”<\/p>\n
And then moments later it’ll be …
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\n“You’re going to hate it.<\/i>”<\/p>\n
“You have no appreciation for what people are going to say about you.<\/i>”<\/p>\n
“How about just taking the hormones?<\/i>”<\/p>\n
And then moments later it’ll be …<\/p>\n
“I don’t care what you do, I want you to stay.<\/i>”<\/p>\n
“You deserve to choose for yourself for a change.<\/i>”<\/p>\n
“Let yourself be happy !<\/i>”<\/p>\n
And then …. the cycle continues again.<\/p>\n
It’s sorta reminds of how water starts to boil …<\/p>\n
A few bubbles here …<\/p>\n
Then it subsides …<\/p>\n
A few more there …<\/p>\n
Regression again …<\/p>\n
Then a few more everywhere at the same time …<\/p>\n
Until it gradually reaches the boiling point …<\/p>\n
And there are bubbles everywhere.<\/p>\n
Except instead of water bubbles,<\/p>\n
I have sparks of acceptance.<\/p>\n
A few here …<\/p>\n
Regression.<\/p>\n
A few there …<\/p>\n
Regression again.<\/p>\n
It’s pretty interesting. But it was also a bit challenging for me. Because just as I was getting all excited that finally … they got it … I get tossed a set back … but barely before I can dwell on my set back … I’d be given encouragement that they want to be supportive.<\/p>\n
It took me a while to understand that’s what is happening. They are making movements towards Acceptance. They will be there eventually. I’m very hopeful. Though I doubt it won’t be until a fair amount of time has passed after I’ve been fulltime … but regardless, I view it as incredibly positive behavior.<\/p>\n
And a sign that there will be sparks of Acceptance boiling over someday.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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