“Hi, how are you? <\/i>”<\/p>\n
“Hey, how ya doin?<\/i>”<\/p>\n
So many times that is asked … as sort of a hello<\/i> … not meant to generate a real answer … it’s filler talk … it means nothing, not asked with sincerity and not expected to be answered with honesty. I never ask it in that way, if I ask, I’m concerned and want a sincere answer.<\/p>\n
“Good, you?<\/i>”<\/p>\n
“Good thanks.<\/i>”
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\nThe senior partner at my old law firm always answered the questioned the same way … Never Had It So Good<\/i> … he was a positive, optimistic person. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
Myself … I usually do the courteous …<\/p>\n
“Fine thanks, you?<\/i>”<\/p>\n
But sometimes, I can’t bring myself to perpetuate even that simple lie …<\/p>\n
I don’t tell them the truth for gawd’s sake … that’s not socially appropriate … no one cares how you’re doing and no one wants to find out …<\/p>\n
No … I do a redirect …<\/p>\n
I simply don’t answer the question …<\/p>\n
I’ll smile, maybe toss in a sort of laugh and head nod up and down, and then say …<\/p>\n
“How are you?<\/i>”<\/p>\n
They’ll do their courtesy … “Fine thanks<\/i>” …<\/p>\n
And we’re done doing the salutation dance.<\/p>\n
And I didn’t have to lie.<\/p>\n
I’ve done this for most of my life, at least as far back as I have been asked that question …<\/p>\n
And to this date …<\/p>\n
Only one person has ever caught on to this tactic of mine.<\/p>\n
They’ll usually press me for an answer then, because they know what it means.<\/p>\n
Now if Mom, Dad or Shaft ask me that question, I don’t play that game. I answer them honestly. Everyone else, I’ll do a redirect.<\/p>\n
Why do I mention that ??<\/p>\n
Mainly ’cause I’ve been asked that phrickin’ question often the last few weeks, and regardless of my phunk … I still answered …<\/p>\n
“Fine thanks, you?<\/i>”<\/p>\n
There’s really no need for me to answer any other way.<\/p>\n
Because there was nothing they could have done to get me outta my phunk.<\/p>\n
Why?<\/p>\n
I don’t think I know how to ask for or accept people’s help.<\/p>\n
It’s pretty much a running joke in my circle of friends …<\/p>\n
I’m either called doormat (mat for short) or bitch.<\/p>\n
Ask me for anything and I’ll try really hard to deliver, and usually do …<\/p>\n
But usually it’s a one way street … I simply don’t ask for things in return.<\/p>\n
Of my friends, I ask more of Shaft than I ask of anyone in the world, and I suspect even he’ll admit, I’m pretty much a low maintenance friend (probably the lowest maintenance transsexual friend that he has !! lol \ud83d\ude42 ).<\/p>\n
This phunk that I had been under the past few weeks … it was scary.<\/p>\n
And I would have benefited from having some assistance from friends, it would have been a good thing … but not only did I not know how to ask for help … I couldn’t even accept it when it was offered by some of you (thank you though \ud83d\ude42 ).<\/p>\n
I’m unphunked now … I’ve worked my way outta it … and back to my chipper self … and I have a few posts that I’ve keyed out while I was working my way out of it that I hope you’ll find entertaining when posted … or at least informative.<\/p>\n
But I think I need to learn how to not only say “help”,<\/p>\n
But also how to accept it.<\/p>\n
I consider it a character flaw of mine.<\/p>\n
One I suspect that was the result of my coping techniques.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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