The first time I told everyone on my disclosure list that I was a transsexual …<\/p>\n
All I knew was that I was a transsexual.<\/p>\n
I didn’t know what I was going to do about it.<\/p>\n
And in many ways … that made Disclosure much easier than it is for some.<\/p>\n
Because I was able to present my disclosure in an informational way …<\/p>\n
“You’ve always wondered what made me tick, here’s the issue, here’s what can be done about it, but today, right here and now … I’m not sure which one I’m going to do.”<\/i>
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\nIn fact, with that approach, my disclosures, though nerve-wrecking and personally difficult for me in their own ways, all went really pretty well (with the exception of one<\/i>).<\/p>\n
Why?<\/p>\n
Well, I think having great family and friends was the biggest factor … but also …<\/p>\n
When I disclosured in that clinical, analytical manner … there’s no doubt … most people heard Option 3, figured that was the most likely choice, and disgarded Options 1, 2 and 4 as mere remote possibilities … and there’s no doubt … I did little to discourage that conclusion. I offered to answer any questions anytime they had them, I followed up a few days later with an “are you okay?” query … but that was it for their first exposure to my transsexualism. I didn’t show them pictures of me, I didn’t hand them pamphlets, I didn’t give them my copy of True Selves … I did none of that. It’s not because I didn’t have them available … I had assembled disclosure packets … it’s because as I was disclosing … I became aware that with my Disclosurees … I could benefit from minimizing the “Too Much Information” risk.<\/p>\n
I felt that with TMI … they would overload … it would simply be too much information for them to process … too great of a shock to their system … and as such … things could be said or interpreted … that could unnecessarily cause hurt or pain.<\/p>\n
Then … over time … as I was working through my Decision process … I would ease them to the real possibility that all Options were under consideration …<\/p>\n
With hopes that the slow absorbtion of the information would keep things a bit calmer …<\/p>\n
During the process.<\/p>\n
Now, granted, I have been reminded by a few viewers that my approach was a “cop out” … that I was just “chicken” to tell them bluntly …<\/p>\n
But I don’t think that was the case,<\/p>\n
Honestly … I don’t.<\/p>\n
I can deliver bad news, I can deliver news people don’t want to hear … but it’s not my nature to be harsh just because I have the opportunity to be that way … I hold no ill-will or anomosity towards anyone … (just the gods of fate, and one day, those phuckers will pay !! \ud83d\ude42 ) … so I was trying to ease people into the world of TS.<\/p>\n
It was a good approach for me.<\/p>\n
But now that I’m doing the Announcement thang … at times I’m feeling like I reliving Disclosure all over again … and I am !! But this time … it’s harsher … because … I’m delivering news most don’t want to hear.<\/p>\n
Though so far … I am getting the feeling that it’s at least less harsh than it would have been had I been just blunt with them from the beginning … had I waited until I had made my Decision before telling them anything. At least now they’ve had some time … some opportunity … to become exposed to it all … first.<\/p>\n
But some things are different with Announcement than with Disclosure.<\/p>\n
When I was first doing Disclosure … I was still embarassed about being a transsexual … my voice would lower when I said the word … I don’t think I made good eye contact …<\/p>\n
And … I was incredibly embarassed telling people that I was a “girl”.<\/p>\n
Those days are over … transsexual, transsexual, transsexual … I can say it with ease, I’m not the slightest embarassed by my condition, and I only lower my voice now when saying it at times to protect the privacy of a conversation …<\/p>\n
And I’m not the slightest embarassed about being a “girl” … I suppose for a while there I had remnants of male chauvanism in my psyche that was struggling with this whole concept of wanting to be a “girl”. But now … my Attitude has caught up with me and once again I consider myself a higher being than most people I’ll encounter in any given day … and I find most boys lesser forms of intelligence … amusing, useful, scrumptious to look at, and fun to play with … but certainly, not my equal.<\/p>\n
But though Announcement for me is much less embarassing that Disclosure was … Announcement has been much sadder.<\/p>\n
Because … though I’m starting one life … I’m ending a life I liked in a lot of ways.<\/p>\n
And through all of this … with my efforts to be caring and understanding in my Disclosure and Announcement … all for the concern of others …<\/p>\n
I totally forgot about me.<\/p>\n
And it has honestly, completely caught me off guard …<\/p>\n
Just how sad at times I’d feel during Announcement.<\/p>\n
Now … I’m not stupid or anything, well, at least it’s not written on my forehead … so I know that I’m just going through the stages of grief myself … as others are (but that I get the thrill over going through the stages in a different way with each and every Announcement) … so I know I’ll be fine and these sad times are just temporary …<\/p>\n
But still …<\/p>\n
At times …<\/p>\n
Yes. It does hurt.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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