<\/p>\n
When I transitioned,<\/p>\n
My first name and last name were both changed.<\/p>\n
And acclimating to my new first name took some time:<\/p>\n
Seemed like it took me forever to stop turning in response upon hearing my Version 1.0 name being called out to someone else;<\/p>\n
And it felt as if it took just as long to get me to respond to my Version 2.0 name if I had even the slightest of Coors Light buzzes.<\/p>\n
Though with the passage of time,<\/p>\n
My new first name has become second nature,<\/p>\n
And my old one foreign.<\/p>\n
But now,<\/p>\n
I have noticed something sorta, kinda, what-I-think is weird about me and my relationship with my new last name.<\/p>\n
Seems like whenever someone asks me if I’m related to someone with my new last name,\u00a0I say …<\/p>\n
“No<\/em>” way too quickly.<\/p>\n Krazy\u00a0quickly.<\/p>\n Borderline rude.<\/p>\n Kinda snappish.<\/p>\n I swear, a couple of times I didn’t\u00a0even wait for them to finish identifying of whom they are asking before I offered a curt …<\/p>\n “No, I’m not.<\/em>”<\/p>\n Granted, I suppose a little impatience is understandable, since I do know the answer:<\/p>\n I’m just not related to anyone with my new last name regardless of whether they are from East Town, West Side, North Shore, South Bama,<\/em><\/p>\n Or anywhere else.<\/p>\n But though understandable, I certainly don’t think even a little impatience is appropriate,<\/p>\n Since the question is asked with friendly interest.<\/p>\n And as I do like conversing with pholks,<\/p>\n It doesn’t make much sense that I would suddenly develop an impatience issue because of this simple query.<\/p>\n Likewise,<\/p>\n I don’t think my impatience with such a question has anything to do with having to create a surname past on the fly,<\/p>\n As I’m usually pretty good about feigning whatever needs to be feigned when responding to questions of Amy-History.<\/p>\n Instead,<\/p>\n I think my impatience with the question is because\u00a0when the answer to such a question is always “No<\/em>“,<\/p>\n One never gets the opportunity to enjoy a\u00a0comfort feel of family identity when you are able to say,<\/p>\n Claim,<\/p>\n That someone is your grandfather, grandmother, dad, mom, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, cousin,<\/p>\n Etc.<\/p>\n So I think the unexpected impatience I display in such a situation is that I am reacting to the question in the same manner as I do\u00a0to the slight discomfort to removing a super adhesive bandage,<\/p>\n Just rip if off quickly to get it over.<\/p>\n I can be such a tool at times.<\/p>\n Anyways,<\/p>\n Now that I have created a reasonably\u00a0acceptable rationalization, at least to me, for my\u00a0unexpected impatience,<\/p>\n I will henceforth\u00a0add some pause,<\/p>\n And exhibit thoughtful recollection,<\/p>\n As I contemplate whether or not I am related to whomever such an inquiry is about.<\/p>\n Oh, for those wondering …<\/p>\n Wait<\/p>\n Ponder<\/p>\n Reflect<\/p>\n “No, I’m not.<\/em>“<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I have noticed something sorta, kinda, what-I-think is weird about me and my relationship with my new last name.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2448,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[140],"tags":[],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":140,"label":"Life"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/paw-prints-Dog-the-cat.jpg",236,236,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy","author_link":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":16,"category_info":[{"term_id":140,"name":"Life","slug":"life","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":144,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":0,"count":48,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":140,"category_count":48,"category_description":"","cat_name":"Life","category_nicename":"life","category_parent":0}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1645"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1645"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1645\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2448"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1645"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1645"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1645"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}