{"id":1093,"date":"2004-08-27T10:15:20","date_gmt":"2004-08-27T15:15:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/amynews.com\/?p=1083"},"modified":"2015-10-08T17:38:20","modified_gmt":"2015-10-08T21:38:20","slug":"affirmation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/amynews.com\/2004\/08\/affirmation\/","title":{"rendered":"Affirmation"},"content":{"rendered":"

Wednesday night,<\/p>\n

I did something I’ve never done before,<\/p>\n

And I didn’t even realize it until the night was practically over.<\/p>\n

Now …<\/p>\n

Regular viewers know that Wednesday night is UnUsual Suspect night,<\/p>\n

And I was in a serious mood to go hang out.<\/p>\n

My self-imposed restraint on most extracurricular activities until my SRS …<\/p>\n

Has kept me out of bars,<\/p>\n

And from most social outing situations,<\/p>\n

Which was quickly approaching the “driving me up the phreaking wall<\/i>” point.<\/p>\n

Now we all know,<\/p>\n

Singer is the fearless leader of The UnUsual Suspects …<\/p>\n

And usually sends us an e-mail at some point on Tuesday or Wednesday letting us know …<\/p>\n

What’s What, and<\/p>\n

Where’s Where.<\/p>\n

However,<\/p>\n

I never received my e-mail this week.
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\nSo I tried calling her,<\/p>\n

But just got her voicemail.<\/p>\n

Bummer.<\/p>\n

Not yet giving up,<\/p>\n

I then called our back-up social planner,<\/p>\n

Miss Daisy, aka Vicky Stubing.<\/p>\n

He said he hadn’t heard anything himself, but wasn’t probably going to go out …<\/p>\n

Strike One.<\/i><\/p>\n

Well, I was pretty sure that Sister wasn’t going to be there,<\/p>\n

Since we usually have to engage in active peer pressure much earlier in the day when we are able to coerce her into joining us during the summer months.<\/p>\n

So I decided to call Hottie …<\/p>\n

Which isn’t usually the most imformative,<\/p>\n

As he, like me, usually doesn’t seem to get the word of what’s up until the last minute …<\/p>\n

But I called anyway,<\/p>\n

And got his voicemail.<\/p>\n

Dammit.<\/p>\n

Hottie almost always takes my calls …<\/p>\n

Probably because I call him so rarely,<\/p>\n

That when I do call,<\/p>\n

He figures it might be an emergency.<\/p>\n

Well … this was such an emergency,<\/p>\n

I needed a drinking buddy !! \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

Strike Two.<\/i><\/p>\n

Now fortunately at this point Singer called me and said she was on her way to one of our hangouts …<\/p>\n

That she hadn’t heard from anyone else,<\/p>\n

But that two of her other friends might be showing up,<\/p>\n

And they might bring some others.<\/p>\n

Well, thinking that his was possibly going to turn into a drinking gathering for one of Singer’s other group of friends,<\/p>\n

I was hesitant to krash that party …<\/p>\n

And told Singer I’d think about it.<\/p>\n

Hmmmmm …<\/i><\/p>\n

I didn’t want to be a party krasher,<\/p>\n

And decided I’d try again.<\/p>\n

I hadn’t heard back from Hottie,<\/p>\n

Finally deciding he was either hanging out with Baby Spice, in an area out of cell coverage or actually just busy with work and things,<\/p>\n

So I called Miss Daisy back and tried to bribe him into joining for drinks so I wouldn’t be the only Suspect there that didn’t know people …<\/p>\n

I’ll drive you home,<\/i>” I offered right off the top,<\/p>\n

Which is the ultimate in negotiation offers to him since he still lives in BFE.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, he still conveyed disinterest.<\/p>\n

Oh well,<\/p>\n

Screw it …<\/p>\n

It’s not like I haven’t krashed parties in the past,<\/p>\n

And Singer did<\/i> invite me to join them.<\/p>\n

So I stopped and picked up the requisite offering<\/a> one brings to the princess …<\/p>\n

And made my way to the bar of the evening.<\/p>\n

I got there 1 minute before Happy Hour ended.<\/p>\n

As soon as Singer saw me enter,<\/p>\n

She promptly ordered me two beers,<\/p>\n

One kept on ice.<\/p>\n

Very smooth, cost-conscious move !!<\/p>\n

Another reason why she’s our leader ! \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

Anyways,<\/p>\n

It was just Singer and I for the first couple of hours,<\/p>\n

Which almost never happens.<\/p>\n

Now we all know how critical The UnUsual Suspects have been for me …<\/p>\n

And when just hanging out …<\/p>\n

I am never at more ease, comfort and happiness than when I’m hanging out with this collective group of butts …<\/p>\n

Whether it’s all of us or just a few.<\/p>\n

So it was beyond relaxing just hanging out as we were.<\/p>\n

We even received a celebrity call from Sister …<\/p>\n

Who couldn’t join us that night because she was busy cramming for a quiz that she’s taking today.<\/p>\n

Good luck Sister !! \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

Anywhose,<\/p>\n

Around 8:00 pm,<\/p>\n

The rest of the girls started to show up.<\/p>\n

Wholelotta and Wholelotta’s Regular Drinking Buddy were first …<\/p>\n

(For those new to the show, Wholelotta is a good friend of Singer’s who knows my function and has become someone who I really look forward to seeing and hanging out with … so I was geeked about seeing her arrive; and, Wholelotta’s Regular Drinking Buddy, is someone who I really have no idea if she knows my function or not, though we have met in the past<\/a>.)<\/p>\n

We were eventually joined by a handful of others,<\/p>\n

And finally …<\/p>\n

87 lines after starting this post,<\/p>\n

I get to its point:<\/p>\n

This was the first time I every was hanging out as one of the girls …<\/p>\n

Where the majority of people didn’t know my function, AND<\/p>\n

There were no guys around.<\/p>\n

Meaning …<\/p>\n

For the first time in my life,<\/p>\n

I was a participant in completely open girl-talk.<\/p>\n

And you know what …<\/p>\n

It was so natural and normal for me,<\/p>\n

That I didn’t even think about it until I was readying myself to leave.<\/p>\n

In the past,<\/p>\n

When I was hanging out “with the guys”,<\/p>\n

I was always consciously aware that I had to be on …<\/p>\n

Had to convincingly play the role of Joe Hairdy …<\/p>\n

Know exactly the lines I had to say,<\/p>\n

And deliver them with conviction,<\/p>\n

Lest anyone figure out that I really wasn’t one of the guys.<\/p>\n

I did it very well …<\/p>\n

But trust me,<\/p>\n

You don’t pull it off like I did unless<\/i> you were putting forth a great deal of effort.<\/p>\n

No conversation in any setting like that was ever relaxing or easy for me.<\/p>\n

But Wednesday night …<\/p>\n

Was totally different.<\/p>\n

I didn’t have to think of what lines I had to say,<\/p>\n

I was just able to be me …<\/p>\n

And it was so incredibly easy.<\/p>\n

A significant decision affirming moment.<\/p>\n

Mucho credit and hugs to Singer for getting me there and to this point in my life;<\/p>\n

Lotsa love to Wholelotta for just being so real and natural with me; and<\/p>\n

Thanks to the women I met that night,<\/p>\n

Who knowingly or unknowlingly let me experience what my life was and is supposed to be like.<\/p>\n

I love being me ! \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

Epilogue:<\/b><\/p>\n

First things first, this wasn’t an alcohol induced moment of clarity. I was driving myself home and as such nursed a mere three beers over the course of 5 hours.<\/p>\n

Second of all, I know plenty of guys read my website, so you’re probably curious what kind of girl-talk takes place when the guys aren’t around,<\/p>\n

And wondering …<\/p>\n

If I’m going to spill the beans since I sort of have a decent perspective from both sides, or …<\/p>\n

If I’m going to just clam up and claim I switched sides.<\/p>\n

Well, here’s the scoop …<\/p>\n

I really didn’t “switch sides”, for most of my life to date, I was a secret agent infiltrating the world of boy …<\/p>\n

My loyalty has never waivered,<\/p>\n

Meaning …<\/p>\n

Though I certainly don’t claim to know how guys think,<\/p>\n

Because you are a disturbing, annoying, albeit attractive, mystery to me …<\/p>\n

I do know what you say and talk about when girls aren’t around.<\/p>\n

And that …<\/p>\n

Will be readily shared with any woman that desires such information, as …<\/p>\n

Many Bothans died to bring us this information.<\/p>\n

But as for sharing the corrollary data with you …<\/p>\n

It’s just not gonna happen.<\/p>\n

Sorry. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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