Disclosure – Spuddy

I’m running out of people to tell … 🙂

Well, not really, but I’m running out of people I’m going to tell. Within the next few weeks, all will be accomplished … left only are dealing with telling my two nephews, Shaft’s son, three sets of aunts and uncles, two cousins in person and two via e-mail. The rest … I’m trusting at that time the grapevine will take care of things. 🙂

It’s been absolutely amazing to me what great friends I have … as all but one person have been simply phenomenal in their reactioooon and subsequent support.

I mean seriously, all of my friends have somehow figured out exactly when I needed attention/support/an ear … and have always managed to have someone there for me …

I’m guessing there’s an Amy Maintenance site someplace out there … probably managed by Singer … coordinating everyone’s assistance of me …

Okay, Hottie, you’ve got her for two days this week. Miss Daisy, you’ve got Thursday morning and Friday afternoon. Shaft, stop playing with yourself … she’s going to be funking Tuesday at 2:28 pm – take care of it. Sister, or should I say “Angel”? … you’re needed Friday morning and Monday afternoon, she’s all yours. I’ll take her over the weekend and thru Monday morning. Skipper, do some random check-ins throughout and report any issues here at Amy Maintenance. Okay … any questions? Good … that’s this week’s assignments. Break.

Anyways, the latest on the list of kick-ass kewl responses – Spuddy, f/k/a Puddy and New Business Partner (New Business Partner was just a temporary holding nickname, Puddy is his nickname in real life – but the couple of times I used it, it generated too many unintentional hits, so I made a slight modification for here. Why Spuddy? For the exact same reason it’s Puddy in real life ! 🙂 Because that’s who he is !!)

Spuddy is the new guy at the firm. Singer and I worked with him at my old firm and he left there a few months ago to join us here at Moose and Squirrel. I felt I was in a bit of a conundrum in telling him … as I didn’t want to tell him before he joined the firm because I didn’t know if I could trust him, yet at the same time, I felt I needed to tell him because making an employment leap like that is serious and if I’m going to be changing genders, it could impact his decision to switch.

So … how did I handle it ?? I lied. I told him that there’s a good chance that in 2004 I’m going to be taking an extensive amount of time off from the office and there’s a fairly decent chance I won’t be back to practice here. And I just left it at that. He was then able to make the decision to jump knowing that in some way … he wouldn’t be coming here because of my guaranteed future involvement. And at the time, there was a great deal of truth to that summary because I didn’t expect to come back here.

Well … once that story was spun … it just got easy not to tell him, even though with everyone else here knowing, we had to watch what we said at times. Anyways, we’re now at the point of making some serious firm decisions and me changing my involvement here … so I needed to tell him.

Which I did on December 31, 2003, at approximately 10:45 am. Now Spuddy is always … “I don’t have much time” … and when I entered his office and shut his door … he just wanted me to get right to the point. Of course, I didn’t, I spent a good 15 seconds on the privacy speech … and apologized up front for not telling him sooner … “Just get on with it, Dude.

Whatever.

So I did … a pretty short and concise version of it … because I was expecting Hottie and Baby Spice to visit at any time … but it conveyed the scoop very well !!

Dude,” he said shaking his head, “I thought you were going to tell me you had purchased a mail order bride, not that someday you could be one !

Good one. 🙂

I’m shocked, obviously. I never saw this coming and I’m going to need some time to process this. But I can tell you my first reaction is that I feel really bad for you … because you’ve been having to deal with this for so long and keep it hidden. I don’t think any differently of you and I hope you’ll decide to stay here and not leave. I’ll just say this up front, I’m a bit nervous about talking about this and it’s surprising me, and when that happens, I tend to make jokes, so if I offend you in any way, I’m sorry and please tell me.

Spud … don’t worry about that. There’s plenty to laugh about in all this … it does help in processing it.

I then peaked my head out of his office and saw that Hottie and Baby Spice had arrived …

I’ll be right there,” I said to God as I closed the door.

Hey, I’ve got to go … we’ll talk more later. Shaft is available to gab about this, so is Skipper. Let me know if you have any questions and thanks.

Total disclosure time … 14 minutes.

Well … he did have some more questions later … the basics … Did I dress is drag? How often have I done that? Do I have a girl name?

But none of the questions felt misintended or mean-spirited. They were all from the heart … interest coupled with concern and curiousity. And in the several days since he’s been brought into the inner circle … it’s been totally kewl.

Of course, it’s a little weird for me now …

Shaft and Spuddy have bonded so well previously,

But since the disclosure … they have become Bosom Buddies … viewing themselves as the only guys here now …

I can often here them grunting in each other’s office while discussing hockey or Nascar …

Though honestly … I certainly don’t mind being excluded from the boys’ reindeer games ! 🙂

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9 Comments

  1. LOL Ahhh … I was thinking that was really Baby Spice piping up … I was trying to taunt her into saying something !! 🙂

    Well … better late than never, I’m glad you finally came around to accept that it’s more fun to “skate” with a partner ! 🙂

  2. OK…I’ll be honest…that was me responding for Baby Spice. However, I’m sure she would agree with the Mr. Perfect perception. She may have even said “Oh God” a couple times. And it is true…after 5 years…I’m still not a very good skater.

  3. Yeah…he is Mr. Perfect, although I hear he is not a very good skater. No…that is not code for anything!

  4. of COURSE its easy to tell…Miss Daisy is the nice one…

    You’re ok of course…but hey…Miss Daisy took her to the prom for gosh sakes…

    M

  5. Well … with Shaft it’s more like wobble across the hall and say it … but, ya know, that would involve that whole “moving” thing … 🙂 I will concede … he is correct … when it comes to hockey or Nascar … I’m simply not interested. I also acknowledge that Hottie is a hockey fan, and plays hockey himself … BUT … he’s not a “huge” hockey fan … meaning … he can actually have a conversation without bringing it up at least once. Which is one of the reasons why he’s Mr. Perfect … right Baby Spice ? 🙂

  6. Nice comment Shaft. I mean it.

    I love the way you guys work together, and then have this little off campus program going here…You could just walk across the hall and say this, right?

    Makenna

  7. A, you’re not excluded. You’re just not interested. Boston at Detroit tonight at 7:30. Be there. Someday you’ll thank me when Mr. Perfect turns out to be a huge hockey fan. I know, I know… a hockey fan couldn’t be Mr. Perfect. Irony always makes for a better ending.

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