Disclosure – Sister

So … I did another Disclosure Friday.

Honestly, I hadn’t forgotten about her, I just hadn’t gotten around to her, mainly because her ability to keep a secret is … shall we say, questionable?

Sister. Yuhp. Sister.

For those of you who weren’t around here for Star Wars – The gospels of Amy: gospel I, Sister is not really my sister. She is a friend of Singer’s who started hanging out with Singer, Hottie, Shaft and I a few years ago during bwowling night ! Sister is totally nice, sweet, understanding and caring. She’s funny, quick witted and though having the appearance of this mild mannered, petite sweet, attractive mother of 2, wife of 1 … she’s got the mouth of a sailor. And you just never have any clue what swear words or their derivatives she’ll combine and toss out …. the contradictioooon is hiliarious ! Anyways, Sister is Sister because of her compassion, ability to know what’s wrong without having to talk about what’s wrong, and her skill in tendering great, practical advice. A while ago I was struggling with some issues and though blunt, she delicately gave me some wonderful sisterly advice. Afterwards I promptly informed her that I was going to adopt her as the sister I never had and she graciously accepted. Now, I still get the blunt talk with delicate advice, but I also am expected to pick up cigarettes for her when she runs out, fix her computer problems and, of course, always get her a Christmas present !! 🙂

Now Sister has a very totally laid back personality while being one of the hardest workers I’ve ever met. She never seems to ever get rattled. But unfortunately, after a few beers and/or shirts, there’s always the chance she’ll suddenly, out of the blue, not intending to disclose anything, say something like …

Sister: “I think Joe Hairdy will make a really cute girl, I’m so proud of him for having the courage to do this.”

Dude behind counter at Taco Bell: “What?”

Sister: “Yeah, isn’t it great. Joe’s having a sex change. I’m so happy for him. Wow … and Amy, it’s such a cute name !”

Dude behind counter at Taco Bell: “Okay, whatever. What’s your order?”

Someone in line who knows both of us but wasn’t part of the conversation: “Holy shit !! Did you just hear what Sister said about Joe?”

Anyways, at this stage of the game, with my face and all :), though still trying to contain Disclosure, let’s phace it, I’m liviing on borrowed time on that front. So the risk of telling Sister is much less than it was before.

Plus … she knows Singer knows, she knows Hottie knows, she knows Shaft knows. And she knows she doesn’t. And she wants to know !!! 🙂

Totally understandable.

And of course, she deserves to know and I want to tell her.

So we’ve been trying to coordinate a time to talk for the last week. Unfortunately it has been very difficult.

So finally today, late this afternoon, we just said screw it and I met her outside her office building under the guise of her taking a smoke break. As typical of late with my Disclosures, I put about 14 seconds of thought into what I was going to tell her. But I was confident that was more than sufficient !! 🙂

So a 70 minute smoke break later … she went back into work with complete knowledge and information.

Totally easy to talk to about it, totally kewl with it, totally supportive throughout.

I fully expected that she would be. I wasn’t the least bit concerned about her reaction when telling her.

She said repeatedly how proud she was of me to have the courage to do this, and how happy she was for me to pursue my happiness. She asked a few questions, but not many. She seemed pretty attuned to the nuances of the condition, so either this isn’t her first exposure to it or she’s just incredibly worldly … I’m going with the latter. She was familiar with Jenny’s book, having read a review about it in People, and she volunteered references to that before I even mentioned it.

And she wants me to stick around here. Yay !

Oh yeah, and she had lots of questions about my face !! 🙂

We could have talked for hours more, no question about it, but a smoke break really shouldn’t last more than 1 hour and 10 minutes … so we had to part.

And another Disclosure was complete. 🙂

Sister totally rocks !