Boiling Point of Acceptance

So … there are the Stages of Grief (Denial, Anger/Resentment, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance) … oft discussed here and on many other pages … which have been terribly important for me to keep in mind during my whole Disclosure experience …

But what I’m finding interesting is how progression from one stage to another seems to occur pertaining to my transition … specifically … the journey to Acceptance.

Right now … I have several people in my life who are tenuously nearing that leap to the Acceptance stage … and being the incredibly cool people that they are, as I tend to only hang out with such – hehe šŸ˜› … when they test drive the Acceptance stage … they are incredibly cool to me … and some of the sweetest, most supportive things in the world are said to me …

Just wish there was something I could do to help you.

Instead of thinking of what you are leaving behind think about what you have to gain.

[Y]ou’ve been very successful pretending all these years. Just imagine how great you will be being yourself.

Here’s the one rule, you aren’t allowed to find a man before me ! šŸ™‚

It’ll be nice, really nice.

And then moments later it’ll be …

You’re going to hate it.

You have no appreciation for what people are going to say about you.

How about just taking the hormones?

And then moments later it’ll be …

I don’t care what you do, I want you to stay.

You deserve to choose for yourself for a change.

Let yourself be happy !

And then …. the cycle continues again.

It’s sorta reminds of how water starts to boil …

A few bubbles here …

Then it subsides …

A few more there …

Regression again …

Then a few more everywhere at the same time …

Until it gradually reaches the boiling point …

And there are bubbles everywhere.

Except instead of water bubbles,

I have sparks of acceptance.

A few here …

Regression.

A few there …

Regression again.

It’s pretty interesting. But it was also a bit challenging for me. Because just as I was getting all excited that finally … they got it … I get tossed a set back … but barely before I can dwell on my set back … I’d be given encouragement that they want to be supportive.

It took me a while to understand that’s what is happening. They are making movements towards Acceptance. They will be there eventually. I’m very hopeful. Though I doubt it won’t be until a fair amount of time has passed after I’ve been fulltime … but regardless, I view it as incredibly positive behavior.

And a sign that there will be sparks of Acceptance boiling over someday.

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2 Comments

  1. meanwhile,
    it’s fun to step back from myself
    and see this same process
    happening to me…
    of course,
    i’m hopping from step to step
    like a spirograph
    (you DO remember spirographs, don’t you?)

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