I Agree With Them
I found it interesting ….
Very interesting.
Within the last 24 hours …. I’ve talked to two different people about my transsexualism ….. people to whom I am very close …. and who are members of the Group of 10 …. you know, that group that would actually give a rip if I was around or not.
I value the thoughts of both.
One of the conversations I initiated ….. the other, I didn’t, and was honestly caught off guard by it. But really both conversations were rather spur of the moment.
And both conversations were incredibly rewarding and fulfilling for me. Their insights were very confirming ….. and it reassured me that I put the necessary thought into my decision before making it.
Neither person is crazy about Option 1, though I feel one of them is of the opinion it’s the right thing for me and the other isn’t sure yet. During the extensive discussions ….. we covered and talked about a great deal ….. but something that both said surprised me ….. not because of what was said …. but because both of them, independently, said the same thing …..
“It would have been better if you had transitioned when you were in your 20’s.”
Both felt that by delaying, I am not going to be able to capitalize on all I have worked so far to accomplish and gain in my life to date, and that by delaying transition when I did, I’m not going to have as many opportunities to do things with my life than if I had when I was younger.
In their context, both of their observations were dead-on accurate.
And it was encouraging to me how with both, we were able to openly talk about transitioning in a positive way.
Though I am curious if they each would be so accepting of early transition had I let them know back then.
Would they have said ….
“Well, you are the perfect age?”
I’ll never know.
But it’s interesting nonetheless.
remember–
there ARE times when a double negative
is not inappropriate;
“Not all traffic stops”
does not mean
“All traffic goes”
meanwhile,
we seem to all be agreeing on this timing thing,
and Emily only drives in fiction…
🙂
I completely agree TWG. 🙂 Personally, there was definitely no way I was ready to accept such a decision 10 – 20 years ago. Accepting my transsexualism for myself has been my hardest struggle to date, and there is no way I could have made a decision to transition prior to my own acceptance. The timing is right for me. I’m comfortable with it and really don’t regret not transitioning earlier (sorry about the double negative, just too lazy to rephrase 🙂 ). I wish I could live forever, but I don’t regret how I spent my 20’s (I loved my 20’s) and my 30’s were growth and education …. something very necessary. And you’re right …. who knows what I’ve have gotten myself into in my 20’s !! LOL I know the clock is a-tickin’ 🙂 …. I’ll post my Calendar of Events soon !
yeah, what she said.
🙂
Important to note – you could only have come to the decision when you were ready to accept that decision. What ‘coulda/shoulda/woulda’ been is irrelevant, because its the path you didn’t take. You had to get your head to a point where you could seriously make the decision – attitude, acceptance and a host of other factors played into it – how can you know what you woul;d’ve been like if you’d changed in your 20s – heck, you might have been overly-promiscuous and gotten AIDS … you just don’t know all the factors in a might-have-been. All that matters is – are you ready to make the decision now, or do you wait? Remember – your clock is ticking, and while you didn’t make the decision at 20, making it at 60 may not be in your best interests ..
Good luck!
For your own safety.
Good point, there have been considerable improvements over the past 20 years in the services and procedures performed. I do think this is the right time for me.
Hehehe Gawd no, rent is never owed, even if Emily didn’t get all the great lines. But she really likes being able to say “Hi Mom” and driving the taxi last week rocked !! 🙂 Shaft never lets me drive.
btw,
the most important thing i learned
in studying astrology
is that people don’t go to astologers
to hear the truth–
they go to astrologers because they
already KNOW the truth,
and it’s not what they want to hear…
(do i owe you rent for this comment?)
i don’t like to give astrology any recognition,
nonetheless,
an important thing i learned in studying
astrology
was this:
there are not only right things to do,
but right times to do them…
were the last twenty years of your life wasted?
i don’t think so,
but i’m only guessing…
i think surgery and other things
have greatly improved in the last twenty years,
too…